What Is The Biker Lifestyle By Patricia

Mark and I believe in the idea and way of life of the “Biker Lifestyle.” (Before anyone says “Who is she to know anything about the Biker Lifestyle” you need to read the end of this letter).

Now just being a biker may mean something a little different to another person. Its meaning depends on what you believe in as a rider.

Some may think that if you put 1000 miles on your bike then you are a biker. Some also believe that if you do any of the following then you are a biker such as preferring to ride over being in a cage (a car or truck), working on your own bike, building your bike from old bike parts, attending rallies, even more specifically that you ride to a rally opposed to towing your bike on a trailer, riding in bad weather, ride every day and not just on Sunday’s, having your “lady” working in a strip bar, having your lady flash during a ride or event, being a member of a club (a H.O.G. chapter or the A.M.A. does not count), being told to leave an establishment because of your riding attire, having loud pipes on your bike, having a tattoo (s), riding a Harley instead of a “wanna be hog” or a crotch rocket, wearing a leather vest with all those cool run pins and patches.

(I have to tell you this funny story. We were at a one of those huge bike runs and we actually saw this dude get out of his BMW that he parked around all the bikes and he put on his vest, with all the patches & pins, and then he put on his skull cap and tried to act like he was, well “a biker”).

Like many true riders, we can actually say that most of those apply to us. Like riding more then just on Sunday’s. Mark rides his bike to work every day. He has a choice of driving a cage, but he prefers to ride. He says it is a huge stress release and he enjoys the freedom that only his bike can give.

Whenever we go out, we prefer to ride instead of taking the car whenever possible even if it is just over to friends for a BBQ or to the movies. It is just a lot more enjoyable and feeling free and not caged in.  When we go out to have fun at a club or tavern we still prefer to ride and yes I wear a dress.  Riding a bike shouldn’t mean that I should stop wearing fun out fits or looking nice when I arrive somewhere. Besides I enjoy the looks and the comments when we pull up and I am, well how do I say this, dressed for fun.

Some people, mostly other women tell me I am crazy for riding in a dress or skirt. I tell them that Mark knows I am his “precious cargo” and that he rides even more defensive with me on the back.  Yes I do wear jeans in the colder times, but I still ride and still have fun when I get there. That is one of the great things about living on the West Coast.  We can ride year round and we do.

When we do ride and stop at a tavern or other bike stop, it doesn’t take long for Mark to start pacing.  It lets me know that he just wants to get back on the bike and ride.  We do all the poker runs and rallies, but is all of this what it really means to be a biker?

Being a biker is more then words and acts. It is a state of mind.

Being a biker means that you enjoy the company of other riders over anyone else (no matter what they ride). For that reason most of our friends ride.  We do have friends that don’t ride and there are a few who I wish that did and I try to convert them all the time (I have my personal reasons and you guys especially would thank me later when you met those girls).

We believe that it is all about the ride, the good times you have along the way and the people you meet and share those good times with. We also believe in what a true “brother” or “sister” really means and that special bond that comes with it.

Being a biker means that you do not go along with the normal flow or care about what people think, except those who are your true friends.   Bikers live their lives the way they want to. Bikers love the freedom riding gives them. If we want to look a certain way or wear a certain type of clothing or in my case the lack of certain clothing then I know the real bikers’ community will accept that and the rest can just walk away shaking their up tight and closed-minded heads (but will make sure they got that picture on their camera before they judge you as they walk away).

I read that “Bikers don't take any shit. They are kind to women, children and animals, but don't take any bull shit. This is an essential part of being a biker. It has to do with respect and honor. Anyone can be a quicktempered fool. They are cool, they stand tall and backup what they say with action.

Bikers are always the greasy bad guys in the movies, but every real biker knows that their word is their bond. Your word is all you have in life that is truly yours.

Bikers help others. When a brother or sister is broken down by the side of the road, they always stop and help them. Even for moral support, if that is all they can give, it is better than riding on by. Remember life is about the journey and the ride. Not just getting there. You already are there.

Bikers don’t just help bikers, they show the world that they are better than the image portrays them. Courtesy costs you nothing and gives you everything.

Bikers do what they say they will do, be there when you say you will. This is called integrity. This also goes back to standing for something. Like the song says, “You've got to stand for something or you'll fall for anything.”

Mark had this thing about being on time on rides and that he always believed other riders should be on time as well.  We talked about this and he understands now that it is all about the ride and when you get there you get there.  The fun is just getting there.  Sure other riders should be there when they said they will be there, but shit happens.

“Life is not a drill. Yeah, it isn’t a dress rehearsal. This is life, go out and take big bites of it. You've got no time to lose and bikers don't stand around waiting for the party to come to them. You only go around once.”  I believe in that. Hell if there isn’t a party when I get there then there soon will be one.

I would like to think that we live by all of these words as best we can.

I agree with Mark when he says that David Mann truly captured what it meant to be a “Biker” and live the Lifestyle.  It is easy to see myself in some of his art and yes I do have some favorites as you can see on this page.

I actually know what it means to be biker chick living the lifestyle. Not many people know this, but before I met Mark, I hung out with a well known “outlaw M/C” in So Cal.  (I will not mention the club here. Doing so would possibly be considered as being disrespectful to the club).

I was not the property of any one person of the club, but because of someone in the club (who was in a high-ranking position) I was protected. I went on their runs, hung out at their club house and present during a few memorable events (those things I will not discuss here or anywhere).  But yes I think my past with them would qualify me as having some knowledge of what the concept of being an “Old School Biker” and in the “Lifestyle” means.

I found that “True Bikers” are there for each other. They do not judge you by your appearance or choice of lifestyle. I think that part of the “biker lifestyle” or more specifically the “Old School Biker Lifestyle” was partly about being free in ever since of the word.  That includes being sexually free. I have been called a sexually open person or “free spirted biker chick.” I like being referred to like that.

In my experiences with being with the club and around old school bikers it was not unusual for the guys “old ladies” to be free with their bodies and that included having fun with people other then her “old man.”  Some may not agree with that idea or concept. I do and I feel that my personal lifestyle mirrors that feeling and belief.  This doesn’t mean that I mess around with everyone.  This  doesn’t mean that all biker chicks are slut’s and not all biker chicks are like me.

I am who I am, I had no say in being born a girl, but I am a biker chick by choice.

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